Wednesday, February 4, 2009

I miss my talks with Jack



I miss my talks with Jack. He has spiraled so far into addiction, his Nintendo DS addiction. More times than not, I hear myself talking to him with no response. Our car rides, once full of Jack's thoughts and stories are now mostly silent with the exception of the cling, clang, ting, ting sound of the Lego's Star Wars game. And when he does talk, he now seems to ask me about things I know nothing about. Things like, "Did you know the clone army is huge?" or "Did you see Boba Fett's jet pack?" or "What do you think Jabba the Hut's weapon is?"

Sigh.

I want my talks back. I know they aren't lost for good. I know this because Jack was without his DS when I picked him up today and it was just like old times. As soon as we hopped into the car, Jack was his old self.

"Mommy, did you know Miss L and Miss J at school are mommies?" he asked.

"Uh huh. I did know that."

"They are mommies and teachers. And you are a mommy, too. Right Mommy?"

"Yup, that's true. I am a mommy."

Jack continued his thought process. "Because if you didn't have any kids, you wouldn't be a mommy. You'd just be a plain old grown up, right?"

"Uh, a 'plain old grown up'?"

"Uh huh, because if you didn't have kids, you would be lonely, right?"

I decided to tread lightly here. "Well, I love having you and Megan and wouldn't want it any other way. But sometimes people don't have kids because they have decided they didn't want to have them, or couldn't have them."

I paused for a second before I continued. "People who don't have kids aren't always lonely...they find other things they are interested in and they..."

Jack finished my sentence with, "They get a dog???"

9 comments:

LilSass said...

Hey Heeeeeyyy!!! Wait just a second Jack! Us childless people aren't lonely. We have friends and books and dates and porn and THE INTERWEBS!! Cut us some slack, kid! ;-)

Dana's Brain said...

HA! LilSass just cracked me right up! I think I'd like me some of that non-childless stuff now and then!

Plus - some people without kids get cats, you know.

Zip n Tizzy said...

You should have just told him that people without children keep from being lonely by playing Nintendo DS.

Ms Picket To You said...

jack - lilsass knows of what she speaks. when you are 18, you can know it too.

in the meantime, as a mother of three, i am pretty sure i get more lonely then anyone should be.

thank god for your mom, jack.

Badass Geek said...

I want a dog.

The Mother said...

Then they grow up and their only conversation is "fine."

How was school today, dear?
Fine.

Did you like the dinner?
Fine.

At least Jack still has a vocabulary.

For Myself said...

DS is a kidnapper.

I LOVE JACK!!

Julie B. said...

HA! And people without kids can also have good night sleep. I'm missing that one right now! Missing it so much that it's making me lonely...um, does that make sense?

Lori said...

How did he KNOW that they get a dog?