Sunday, November 1, 2009

Halloween Revisited

It's official. Megan inherited my (and Jay's) I-Hate-Halloween gene. In hindsight, I should have known. There were those few years that I spent $75 or more on a costume, just to have Megan decide at the last minute she wanted to be something else. Then there was her hesitance to attend a birthday party where kids dressed up in Halloween costumes. Even as early as 2 years old, she was at a party at Gymboree and when Jimbo the Clown came out, Megan started screaming. As I said, the signs were there.

Last year, it surfaced hard core when she refused to wear a costume in the school parade. But even then, she rallied and participated in trick-or-treating.

This year, Megan cut the final ties. I thought I was being fiscally smart this year- I bought a $7 sheet, cut holes in it and Megan agreed to go as a ghost. But alas, it wasn't meant to be. At 8 years old, she has fully cut ties with Halloween. First, there was the melt down on the eve of the school parade. She didn't want to do it. When she came downstairs the morning of the parade all weepy, I relented. It's just a silly parade, I thought to myself and emailed her teacher asking to keep her out of the parade. Then, on Halloween, we were getting ready to go trick-or-treating and Megan decided she didn't want to do it. Even if it meant she wouldn't get any of the candy goodies that most other children her age craved. This, to me, was the final straw. This child hates this holiday so much, she will even forgo all candy!!!! So she walked along with us, costume-less watching all the kids in their costumes run like total lunatics from door to door- and she couldn't have cared less. Even when kids asked her incredulously, "You mean you aren't wearing a costume??? You aren't going to go trick-or-treating???" she just shrugged her shoulders.

And I must say, I love that she's an individual, that she doesn't care, that she'll stick to what she believes-even if it goes against the grain. And there's another part of me (as a Halloween hater myself) that is secretly pleased that she doesn't like this holiday, either.


Carolyn...Online said...

That stubborn backbone of hers is going to serve her well. How many 8 year olds are willing to really be themselves like that? Good for her.

just making my way said...

I agree with C...O - good for her for sticking to her true self. As it usually gets harder to do over the years, having such a good foundation is excellent.

Stella said...

You'll have to check out my lovely 2 1/2 year old little girl went as a "yoga instructor" because she refused to get in her costume. So, the black stretch pants and jacket had to do. So, that cute Minnie Mouse costume that I bought this down the drain...thanks for keeping me in check as it's not being stubborn, but rather having individuality.

The Floydster said...

Wow - knows her own mind and willing to be herself, all at the age of 8. I'm very impressed, and glad that you have nurtured her to be herself. Good parenting, JenW!