Saturday, May 8, 2010

Sometimes it's hard to share

Megan: A kid in my class was telling me his birthday is the same day as Mother's Day.
Me: Oh really?
Megan: Uh huh. And he said he didn't like it because he didn't like having to share the holiday. I told him I could totally relate to that.
Me: What do you mean?
Megan: Well, my birthday is on Father's Day. FATHER'S DAY! I don't like that!
Me: Why not?
Megan: Because I have to share the day with him. Ugh!!! And by the way, as far as I can tell, I'll never be a father so I shouldn't have to celebrate on Father's Day.
Me: Think about how your dad feels.
Megan: Huh?
Me: I mean, think about it from his perspective. He's got to share his holiday with you. And seriously? If I was him I'd be bummed out. I'm sure he thinks your birthday will pretty much trump any Father's Day celebration we have planned.
Megan:...
Me:...
Megan (softly): Oh...

...And scene. Empathy teaching moment complete.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

According to Jack, people are nicer to nice people

After picking up Jack from school the other day, we were driving to get lunch. We were headed to McDonald's and Jack was anticipated the toy he would get in his Happy Meal. He announced, "I hope I get the silver dragon toy." I mentioned to him not to be surprised if he got the same toy as he did the last time since his nanny had just happened to take him there a couple days before. I tried to prepare him by saying, "You might get the same toy since it's only been a couple days since L brought you to McDonald's, you know."

As he looked out the window, he began the following monologue:

"I know. L just took me there the other day. I didn't get a Happy Meal then, though. I was playing in the play place and the other girl with us got a dragon toy in her Happy Meal. L asked me if I wanted it so I got to keep it. L is really nice. She's a nice person...I think she's nice to me because I'm a good kid. So I think people are nicer to nice people.I'm almost always happy, you know. I'm happy about, um, 96...no...110...well, maybe it's about 99% of the time I'm happy. Megan isn't as happy as I am. Sometimes, when she comes home from school, she walks in the door and kind of grunts...like this, 'Heeellllooooooggggrrrrhhh'. She's kind of got an attitude."